This is part of my presentation package used for a conference in Bristol:

Every day hundreds of guys across Europe will reach a point in their lives where they cannot continue living a lie. These are men that are in a relationship with a woman, have had children and now realise that the feelings of homosexuality they have always had will not go away. 

The emotions that these men have can be extreme, self loathing, guilt, humiliation, fear, all negative and with good reason. Coming out as an older man with children is one of the hardest things someone can do. Imagine all the normal thoughts of rejection and shame coupled with the thought that everything we have worked for over many years and, even more important, our children, could be taken away from us. 

Thankfully, this is rarely the case; many men maintain a long and healthy relationship with their children and often remain friends with their wives. Most do eventually divorce as keeping such marriages together is often impossible, some, especially older couples, do continue within their marriages and live as friends often with the freedom to explore alternate sexual partners. 

For every case similar to those I have mentioned above, there are a great many more with far reaching variants. There is no solution that will solve every problem for all couples. 

Because this is such a complicated situation, a few years ago Gay Dad Support Net

 was formed. This is an internet based discussion group that was initially restricted to UK residents but has now been opened up across Europe. With the proliferation of cheap flights across the continent, restriction to just the UK seemed pointless. 

Over the coming years we are going to set up real world meetings as well as those online so that any guy wishing to speak to someone face to face can do so. As of February 2005 we have just two locations, London & Milton Keynes in England with Manchester and Birmingham to follow shortly. With the help of our colleagues across Europe, it is hoped that any man that needs to talk to someone else that has been in the same situation as him will be able to do so, not only online but also within travelling distance of his home town. 

For membership enquiries, please visit www.gaydadsupport.net  , Membership will always be free and your details are never passed to anyone outside the group who all have to agree to a strict code of conduct. The online group is restricted to English speaking members only at this stage but as we grow we plan to introduce additional groups in various languages.