Born in Essex and lived in a prefab until I was nearly three. Moved from there to Dagenham, Romsey Gardens where I lived in a banjo (cul-de-sac) with my parents and my older sister. 

I had my first sexual experience that I can remember with a boy called Nicholas Brown when I was just 5!

I used to go to the Sunday School at St. Albans church where I was also a choir boy. I have sung alongside the St. Paul's cathedral choir and was obviously far superior! I also practiced in Westminster Abbey for the summer of '76 but anyone that can remember the heat that year will not be surprised to hear how unpleasant that was. Unfortunately I became ill just before the performance so never got a chance to sing in the Abbey.

After the infant and junior school I went to Mayesbrook Comprehensive. All through my school years I was bullied terribly, Terry Higgins, Terry Knight, David Quigley, Tony Betts & Michael Taylor were but a few of the guys that made my life hell at school, I'm sure they don't even remember me, I'll always remember you guys.

At 20 I met Neil, a really gorgeous guy, slightly younger than me and we had a two year relationship. Neil was the first guy I ever really loved.

1985 was an eventful year. I lost Neil, he simply left me. A few weeks later I met Kris (future wife). My sister separated from her husband and my parents separated. All of these things were very traumatic for me. I actually fell in love with Kris, it wasn't lust, as a gay man that was not possible. I had always wanted children and getting married seemed like the only option at that time. Kris fell pregnant with our eldest child, Jermaine in May 1986 and we arranged a hasty wedding. On July 10th, three weeks before our wedding, my mum died suddenly at 52 with septicaemia. My whole extended family fell apart at that time.

The four children were born fairly close together, the 2 boys were January 1987 and March 1988 and the girls were June 1991 and April 1993. By this time we were on house number 2 in Basildon Essex. I think we had also got to car number 8, a Renault Espace.  The eldest Boy and girl have special needs the boy is severely mentally disabled and also has type 1 diabetes and epilepsy

In 1995 I had a one-night-stand with a much younger guy and it was the turning point in my relationship with Kris. From that moment on we never considered ourselves as married but simply as good friends. It would be wrong to say our relationship has been easy, it hasn't. We only ever had sex to conceive and the last time was when Kris fell for our fourth child.

Later in 1995 I moved up to Northampton with Kris and kids.  We carried on the married facade until 1998 when we decided to allow me to come out to the world, did a TV documentary and other media things in 2000 and finally got a divorce.

All the children stayed with me, I had a 4, nearly 5 year relationship with Nick.

In 2006, March, my eldest boy moved away into full time residential. That was hard.

Currently with Long term boyfriend number 4, John and we have been together since July 2006.